In the last year or two, I've noticed that when I glance past a mirror or other reflective surface as I'm walking by, I see my mother. If I stop long enough to take a harder look, she fades away and it's me again, but the brief glimpse is actually rather upsetting.
I'm in my mid-30s now, roughly the same age that my mother was in my early childhood memories. There is some facial resemblance, but it's not strong. I have my father's nose and jawline.
I wear my hair just past shoulder length, which is a few inches longer than my mother generally wore hers. My mother and I have the same natural hair color, but she colored hers most of my life. We both wear glasses, but the styles are dramatically different. I'm a bit heavier than my mother was, but only a bit.
I think there's something in the set of my shoulders that reminds me of her.
What steps can I take to stop having these shocking glimpses of a person I do not want to be reminded of? I've considered coloring my hair very differently, and I may still try that. I don't see any harm in it, really, and it could be fun. Is it healthy for me to do this though?
What about learning to carry myself differently, specifically my shoulders? Am I going too far if I try to alter the way I carry myself just so I don't have to "see" that hateful woman anymore? Is there some trick I can learn to not be so shocked/upset by it every single time?
Any advice at all would be incredibly helpful. Even if you don't have advice but have been through the same thing, I'd love to hear about it.
Source by Cat_Banana_Hat
Mens Hair Styles 2015
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